And to make matters more complicated, how someone responds during the confrontation doesnt necessarily indicate how they will respond after he or she has had time to think about what was said. To learn when registration opens back up, click the button below. I was done with the lying, the secrecy, and my lover's cowardice. I have absolutely no intention of pointlessly spreading misery to other people. I cannot confront my husbands lover because I have no business with her. Each person has to make their own decisions, but I hope you don't cause yourself any more pain. It gave me even more strength and let me feel better about myself. I agree with this article. She is not the woman you thought she was. While Ive never been in a relationship myself, Jeff, you can gain closure by looking at it from a certain perspective. There is no room in my heart for hate. For #1, your marriage might end up working out. Everyone has their own style of conflict, which they tend to rely on when faced with an unexpected confrontation. Anyway , He did lie about most everything that I ask about and said he couldn't remember any details . WAKE UP! Its your turn to return the favor. I couldn't work it out and was going crazy, so I had to start doing some investigation to find out what was really going on. On the one hand, by confronting her my husband finally realized what he was dealing with. If I confront him, we might end up fighting and it will be a disgrace to my children and family. Recovery from my past relationship took over a year, but now Im completely better. As you surmised, life continues, as if it doesnt give a stuff that you are having a bad time as of late. Tough! c) Reconciliationthat is if you so desire a reconciliation ( I personally would not). Im so sorry to hear things ended up this way. OK, so I realize youre probably in a very emotional state right now, and thats justified. But really, your wifes lovers are not the people with Build on yourself, learn all you can, and eventually you will love again when you are ready. You know what says "you are beneath contempt"? First, she says she broke things off with her lover and wanted to know if there was any possibility of reconciliation. It is only a mad man that will do that. Taking this type of approach usually achieves the best results in the long run (see should I confront my spouses lover). Do not upset the poor girl. You are also agreeing to our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. I will confront my wife and not her lover. If you are reading this here, can you let me know? She asked about certain dates, where we went, what movies we saw together. He would lie about the weather if I couldnt see outside the window for myself. Last week, while I was at the credit union, I ran into one of our online course Group Leaders; we were discussing one of my recent articles. Until I did. Our experts designed this step-by-step guide to help you survive infidelity. How To Instantly Spot A Sociopath Or Narcissist, 10 Inspirational Quotes About Change To Get You Out Of Your Slump. This also backfired. I'm hoping that time will heal. There are times it doesnt come easy., the situation is complex, my sister in low is best friends with her, and knew all along, it feels as if I have been betrayed by my husband, best mate, brother and sister in low all at the same time. I dont feel like a chump (well maybe I did momentarily) No, I am someone who acted on the prompting of the Holy Spirit, I can hold my head high and know that I acted with strength and dignity, keeping my burden light. Pointing and laughing? Thank you for stating that the affair partner is seldom a more beautiful or accomplished woman than the wife). Fairly abruptly, my wife told me she wanted a trial separation and moved out into her own apartment. My only advice is get out NOW. with his or her lover? It only causes heartbreak for you. Logically, I know she's crazy and was grasping at straws trying to "win." Would I do it again? I recently discovered my husband of 19 years had been involved in an 8 month long affair with a co worker from an other town 7 hours away. Through it all, however, I am glad that I've never fixated on the AP, nor have I wasted much energy in hostility toward him. That was in 1993, then, in 2019 I discovered that my H didnt stop at this 1 affair, he continued trying to fill his personal void throughout our entire marriage and this included reigniting his affair with this first woman years after I extended the olive branch Does this make me a chump? Do NOT confront your sweet wife with anything. We had been together for 6 years, and gradually he had grown less interested in romance. @manup I'm not sure how I can proceed without telling her, surely that is the next step to confront her about the affair. Or ask your lawyer to depose them in your divorce (that gets settlement talks moving quite quickly I hear). Get a lawyer and get this over with and move on. And go by Rickys advice, I agree 100% it is effective. And that was that. I told her Gid has a plan for her life and that plan is not my husband. You must stay calm, confident, loving, as always. Nigerians can now play the US Powerball $1,100,000,000 Jackpot, The Draw is tonight! She denied knowing he was ever married (lie) and blamed everything on him. She asked me about particular details only a lover would know. much easier to start than they are to stop. It would be good if you both didnt yell anyone what had happened. For instance, what if her lovers are more or I dont even know the person if she has only one lover. Have a gameplan in place for dealing with that. Whatever you have decided by then (divorce, reconciliation etc) would be execute per your wishes and she would very well like to go in for an (uncontested) mutual amicable divorce (on your terms). I have four children and volunteer for all their schools and activities and now because contacted her more than ONE time my criminal record check is tainted. Its her shame and her disrespect that got you guys into this situation. Have your lawyer write a no contact letter. As @El and @happythoughts have stated, when one door closes, another opens. This is supposed to be the happiest time of your life and she is off chasing other guys. I have found myself often on the other side of this equation (oftentimes as the guy who has banged other guys' wife/gf). I need advice on how to handle this with my wife - and if you help me I will post links to videos of her with face blurred He was old, ugly, and weak. I caught them and confronted her about the affair three months ago. This material, and other digital content on this website, may not be reproduced, published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed in whole or in part without prior express written permission from PUNCH. If they can, then at least give it another chance. I found this a little bizarre, because she didnt seem all that earnest or enthusiastic about it. I wanted him to know that he took advantage of a severely depressed woman who for many years was under the care of a psychiatrist for this diagnosis. He was visibly shaking during the encounter and when he cried to my wife she then saw him as pathetic. Its hard to do when the AP is the down stairs neighbor and you have to see them multiple times a day and money doesn't allow you to move for 2 more months. Please log in OR register. The bottom line is that anyone who would knowingly sleep with a married man (or woman) especially when the wife is PREGNANT (as in my case) is a broken human being. 3. Each day with be different. This is easy. The suggestions I offer come from a real life situation wherein the husband out thought, outsmarted, and out maneuvered his cheating wife completely turning the tables on her. They may be crazy Safety first. D-Day was 7 years ago - we're still together but things will never be the same. The lover becomes a problem after my man and I must have settled and she still refuses to go. Click to opt-out of Google Analytics tracking. Damn this is hard, I'm glad you are all here. This article originally appeared on YourTango. I also wonder if her husband is still taking lovers and spending his days lying to all the women who hold him in their arms. I didn't want any details from the AP - he was 15 years older, weak, and very unattractive. There are no secrets with her family. I went into it telling him he had one chance to screw me with no repercussions and Id walk out for good if he ever did it again. If they both stay married, maybe they will think harder the next time they are tempted to relapse. got angry when I discovered you 2 were friends. Please seek professional care if you believe you may have a condition. Sounds like you handled things like a lady. Sorry to say but time to grab a spine and MAN UP. His lover is not a problem at all to me. You will get through this. It was a confusing, emotional and destructive time in my life, to say the least. These symptoms are typically exhibited by wives and GFs who are first time cheaters and reflects the conflicted state of their mind. Do NOT get tempted to lose your temper as well. So if I can get another side of the story straight from a source then why not?! Space Is Limited! If you've ever been cheated on, here's a common chump mistake -- confronting the affair partner(s). WebPlease advise. She was married but could care less but was determined to have my husband If these women didn't respond, then I would have moved on and dealt with what I knew to be true for me. Expose the affair to the OM's wife or girlfriend 4. It can start with your attitude and habits toward mudane chores, and grow into appreciation for the littlest of lifes pleasures. Maybe there'll be a duel! Will confronting the other person force your spouse to make a decision? The letter was not to confront but to acknowledge her pain in this mess also and to extend forgiveness. His jig was officially up. jesus My friend you are in big time denial. Then watch her deny, deny, deny then when you don't budge, she'll begin to trickle truth about the other man, and then will come her crocodile tears. I contacted the AP via message. I ghosted her and have always felt like I missed the opportunity to let her have it! Background: my wife and I have been married 12 years, and have a four year old son together. b) Making point a) above, redundantwherein you and your attorney so shame her with a few select documentary evidences of her picadilloes (promising her that a much larger cache evidence is available with your attorney), that she decides not to contest the divorce, and virtually signs on dotted lines. As we discussed more, I think I understand more now. KEEP IT FOCUSED ON HER ACTIONS, NOT YOURS. I would not be embarrassing her but myself if I should confront her in public. It always does. "I just finished Hope for Healing and am proud of the changes that I already feel in myself and my marriage. She used the same kinds of words my lover did; you could tell that they were a couple. It did help me just to know she knew the truth. Meanwhile Im constantly told not to confront and just deal with it. As a result of their friendship with her, our children and I have cut off contact with them. You need to divorce her right now. That is all. Maybe I am a wimp, I'm here for advice and I can't help the way I feel. I hope you get by. Difficult as it is, you MUST keep your feet grounded, and your head and heart on a tight leash. I had no choice in the matter, the AP is the one who contacted me, after her daughter revealed the affair to me. When the PI is done with his job, he will have a watertight folder of documentary evidence that nails her infedility. I will not be involved in any physical combat with anyone. Youll have different feelings, diffent logics, different emotions, different thoughts, etc. If you think anything else will happen, well. Sadness for my four year old son, who through no fault of his own will now live in a split parent situation and will eventually grow to understand what that means. Or is such a confrontation likely to scare the other person away? Why? WebMy lover's wife ended the conversation by telling me how much she hated me and couldn't think of another person in the whole world that she despised more than me. Youre both confused about what you want and need time for your own life. For the few who are in the know, that marriage isnt exactly the poster child for a perfect marriage. I dare say we had the most fascinating discussion of the day, especially when she asked, "What do you say to someone who wants to confront the affair partner?". TBH I don't know what my game plan is. When you have a PI on your corner, he will ask you to stop shadowing her or tinkering with her email etc. All rights reserved. Though I run this site, it is not mine. Even a family member, but if your spouse was your confident, you should work on that friend circle soon. If you've been tempted to confront the affair partner, leave it to professionals. My husband claimed she called it off. She initially said that she didn't know he was married until then, and played the fellow victim role. I do understand what is being said here, because not all situations are going to turn out like mine did. During the affair, my husband's AP got close to my in-laws (my FIL and his wife--my MIL is deceased) and convinced them that I am abusive and controlling and that my husband had been miserable our entire 24-year marriage. All Rights Reserved. It would be a relief and would give me tonnes of extra energy for our relationship. First of all, even if he did say these things, (which he claims he didn't, but who knows the truth) how could you look your married lover's wife, one who just lost a much wanted pregnancy, straight in the eye and make these claims to her? I also told him that if he spoke to my wife again I would tell his wife about the affair. And only one person would be able to keep the $hit from hitting the fan. Cheater 101 dude. Made contact. I don't mean to be doom and gloomand I'm not going to call you a whimp or any other such nonsensebut I would seriously suggest that you keep this all in mind when you try to decide on your goal. And perhaps the most surprising feeling of all- elation, mixed with relief. Im not sure, I hope Im never in a position again where I might have to. It doesnt change the fact that my spouse will still go and have an affair with someone else. H was a truck driver and she his dispatcher. But I could tell she still loved him. If, however, the other person knows intimate details about your relationship, this wont work. Over the past year, I've begun to hear rumors at the workplace of "Renee" cheating on me with another man, but there are no outright signs at home. I showed her pure ignorance. Anyhoo, am I hurt of course! I did confront her. Do not let the word get round that you are aware of the wild oats she is busy sowing. Like it has ended. It still hurts and I need to move on. That I forgave her. Sorry, but better to find out now that she is what she is than 10 years down the road. She was just trying to "rescue him." The letter outlined what had been going on in our lives over the last couple years and how I understood what and why my husband had been looking for attention. My husband does stay in touch with his dad some. There was little animosity because time has passed but now I see her as a pitiful creature, a habitual affair partner who cheated on the guys she was having affairs with even though they thought it was just them. Can you imganine the drama and the extra stress? At that point, you have 90% of the battle won. I owe to my family and children though and will stand in my head to make things work. You must be logged in to reply to this topic. Sometimes separtion is whats best for the child. It was helpful to me that I went into the marriage all those years ago with the attitude that I would not unnecessarily squander our marriage if he failed to live up to the commitment. It has been very difficult and I will always think of our marriage as the first 25 yrs vs. the rest of it. Don't participate in this humiliating game. It really is the worst! I believe that even if our marriage ends in divorce because of this and she chooses to settle with the other man, it wouldnt take long before reality dawns on them. You poor pathetic chump, begging for your marriage. Plus, others opinions will confuse you. Viewing 10 posts - 1 through 10 (of 10 total), This topic has 9 replies, 7 voices, and was last updated. I know theyve document.write(new Date().getFullYear()) It made me feel like a worthless unloveable person . Does that make any difference? This was 1.5 years ago and they have maintained a close friendship with her. 2. I have no idea whether they are still in touch. People never cease to amaze me, both the evil and the naive. She sent him a nasty gram including things like " I was forced to listen to her message" that she "almost felt sad for me listening to my voice" and when I asked her for "conformation of status" in my message she replied to him with "That girl has trust issues" he didn't reply. Confronting my wife - need advice. Built their house on land we were supposed to and made sure to get married in the city we loved as a couple so thats wrecked for me. . You need to be honest, upfront, and confront her with what you know. My initial contact with my wife's AP was to let him know the gig was up. Do talk to her about the situation. The reality from her own words was that she will never be anyones number 1 and that hurts her deeply. It will make me feel like I am not capable of meeting her needs. More often than not, it's better to keep the discussion between you and your spouse rather than involve the other person. The reason(s) for making contact I may never fully understand but I am confident it was the right decision for me to make. You want to No matter how much I feel like she is the enemy and is not a good person, it was my husband's responsibility to put a stop to this craziness and he has not done that. As much as you love heryou might well be better off without her in your life, given what all has gone on. Nothing! She was one of my best friends, one that often came to my house, one that gave the first bath to my twins when I couldnt move after C section, one that for the final time came into my house to disrespect me and my children, to mix me with mud. Go get a big steak, go lift some weights and then think about this. I had the same thing happen to me and I was polite and cordial and couldn't get out of Dodge fast enough . I hope this vignette is helpful to others thinking about whether to contact an AP. Ive been struggling with whether or not to respond to my husbands ap. With her 'bf' (the 'other guy') she is the $lut she always wanted to be, and has experienced multi men orgies etc which is simply unthinkable for her to imagine with her husband. His annoyance crossed the threshold when he saw the man responsible for everything on one of the channels. You deserve never to have to go through it again and the assurance that it will never happen again. He turned so pale, looking like he honestly thought Id never find out at all. Can you give me any advice? Oh well. Back to my story: I contacted the AP in order to gain insight. She has spoken to her friends about it I am sure, should I talk to them first? Thanks for listening. She was dumped by him when their 4.5 year double life came out by way of a wrongly sent text to me from my partner. He didn't stand up for us. She basically wanted to discuss two things. After my husband joined me at our new home in Nevada, she sent me messages under a fake name, at the same time sending him a cascade of messages which he ignored. Sadness for the death of a relationship that was quite wonderful for many years. Every now and then she reaches out to my husband, every time it really upsets me. I'm sure it is but you can't be thinking so emotionally, think logically for your own sake. To reclaim your self respect. I cant fight a woman because of a man-Rachael Oni. I have waited a year and have given it a lot of thought. I would highly recommend giving this a try. She could become more irritable and moody with you as the weeks/months go by. But damn if you cant make your own meaning out of it. Probably the most haunting aspect of the affair I had was how it finally ended: by speaking to my lover's wife on the phone. DONT confront your wifes lovers. I speak as an ex-lawyer. You start confronting those guys, and you just opened up a potential legal floodgate You will never be able to trust her, you'll be constantly checking up on her, whenever you are apart you will be torturing yourself with what she may be doing what kind of marriage is that??? Its normal to feel the way you are feeling, and to lose the grip with reality. When she does, I just make myself a fake profile using the name of fictional characters, and post all the details of her affair, including photos and videos she sent on her FB page, buried in comments on old posts. Which leads me to my current conundrum. Love, romance, and other sweet unicorns and This is the way mine went down . He denies that it became physical but he lied about everything and kept the relationship completely secret for at least three years so Ill never be completely sure. As a result we dont talk, perhaps this is for the better.why do I need two faced people around me and my children. Tell her that you KNOWpoint blank, irrefutably. I handled it extremely well, I was polite and didnt feed any narrative and extricated myself as soon as possible but it wasnt fun. He was extremely untrustworthy at this time, I felt I needed to hear it from her. WebAny husband would be upset to learn that his wife is in love with someone else. Now the dad is dying of cancer and maybe has a year to live. My focus has been on my relationship with my wife. There's nothing abnormal about a woman whose partner has cheated wanting to confront the other woman. Talking to the other person can cut both wayssometimes it drives a wedge between a cheating spouse and his or her lover. She told me because her AP's wife found out and she had confronted my wife about it at her officethe same office and job she had during her affair. A: What you experience is a natural emotion of jealousy and insecurity. And her family is fairly traditional, and I feel would look extremely negatively upon her for a very long time if they knew shed had an affair. Yes, bills, parenting, and life goes on. Your confrontation is fresh conversational content for your husband and his affair partner. So that now when I do think of one of the horrible details, all I feel is victory!!! This seems cut throat, but will help you if a custody battle comes up. I messaged them and asked if they wouldn't mind speaking to me. But the biggest reason not to confront the affair partner? Consider the source. Go right ahead. Copyright PUNCH. She will need to resolve her feelings. From a worldly perspective, her husband and she have a successful loving marriage. Because she will turn the tables on you and claim she can't trust you because you snooped. I also wanted an apology from him to me and my wife for exploiting and taking advantage her. Shes in LOVE with him. I wonder if you read the replies there. - S., Alabama | November 2020 Hope for Healing participant. You! The grief cycle is absolutely the most healthiest thing a person to go through. Probably not. The marriage is between my husband and me. I would have asked openhanded questions to see what his responses would be and compare them to what my wife said. None of that should affect you however. if she lies to a judge about the affair and you have evidence than you have her on perjury. Sofor really the first time in 38 years I am very serious in considering getting a divorce. I still feel like I did the right thing by exposing him to his family and his church, but the real issue was my wife; he was just a symptom. My partner lies whenever I have asked for the truth. Dont think twice about it, or nickle and dime over it. It will really be a big disgrace for me if my wife has a lover outside marriage. If you only knew the painful path you're about to walk it's actually more painful that if you just walk away. (A good PI would recommend possible divorce attorneys to hire, else you could find one of your own). TL;DR, but he does not need a PI, he has all the proof he needs. Worked in my case, but I get why you'd advise against it. I would like to communicate with you further! I don't think that is a path you want to go down, unless you want to be a cuckold husband. She has been my best friend for over a decade, and has given me beautiful children, whom I adore. Dont ever contact the ow . This has nothing to do with each others families. She vowed to leave him and told me she had divorce papers ready to go. Until you finally hit acceptance. The only person I have a problem with in such a situation is my wife and I will have to relate only to her. 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